We all know that over 50% of marriages end in divorce. Are you aware that the divorce rate for Christians is even slightly higher than the divorce rate for non-Christian marriages? Although there is dispute as to the reasons behind this, the facts remain the same. One of the theories is that Christian couples might rely on the power of prayer and faith to fix their issues until it is “too late” and they find that their “unhappy marriage” has transformed into a marriage that can no longer be salvaged. Many Christian couples are embarrassed or reluctant to approach their pastor or reach out to traditional marriage therapists to discuss their problems. This is especially true if the problems involve sensitive issues such as addiction, infidelity or lack of sexual satisfaction.
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So what is the solution? Where can you find the best Christian marriage advice?
Here’s the harsh reality. While sexual problems, abuse, neglect, stresses about child rearing, money and jobs may not seem high on the “Christian” priority list, they are very prominent on the “human” priority list. And we are all humans before we are Christians, even if that is a sentiment you would be reluctant to shout out during Bible study.
So while we can be fully committed to having a God centered union and a faith based family experience, we still need to reconcile the fact that we are human, flawed and needing to take responsibility for our own actions and relationships. While prayer is an important component to strengthening your marriage, practical action is also required.
Fortunately there are many excellent resources available on the internet for couples for whom traditional marriage counseling may not be an option, due to either finances(it’s expensive!), embarrassment (who wants to talk to a stranger about these things?), or lack of interest on the behalf of their partner (just like tangoing, it takes two to effectively participate in marriage counseling). While the internet does have many offensive sites and content readily available, there are a growing number of resources in the area of Christian marriage advice easily, inexpensively (many free, in fact) and confidentially available. They center on a practical faith based approach to improving your marriage, even if you sometimes feel like you and God are the only ones interested in making progress! Content, advice and exercise are entirely appropriate for a faith centered marriage and take into consideration that you are not only a Christian, but a human with valid needs and expectations also.